Perhaps egalitarianism without the necessary caveats misleads. Perhaps complementarianism does the same. Egalitarians rightly emphasize the self-giving, perichoretic relations of the Godhead but sometimes complementarians think that they minimize the biblical pattern of internal distinctions among the persons.
"Subordinationist" trinitarians perceive the economic relations of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit but sometimes underplay the biblical witness regarding the benevolent mutuality.
When subordinationists use a hierarchical model of the Trinity to justify independent masculine rulership in familial and ecclesial settings, could it be that they are not grasping the self-sacrificing nature of the Father as well as of the Son and the Spirit? Surely true complentarity is shared leadership without hierarchy in worldly terms. This should be based on giftings not lists of rules to implement.